There’s a lot of pressure today to “live the dream” but what does that mean really? You know if you’re absolutely *not* doing it… but how do you even know if you are doing it? Based on more than a decade of coaching and 40+ years of personal experience I think living the dream is clearer than it seems at first glance. It borders on formulaic. In fact, I can lay out the framework for you in the length of this blog.

The first step in living the dream is knowing what you value / what makes you happy. There’s no point in living someone else’s dream. I can tell you for certain that unless you’re one of those rare completely typical people whose values 100% line up with societal values that living a dream based on societal values will not be satisfying. Rather, you need to get in touch with what makes you tick.
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So, this morning I didn’t wake up in a great mood. I had a hard time getting up. I didn’t want to do anything. I was laying there thinking that I might lose this day to my ADHD. Then, that nag in my brain reminded me that I’m an ADHD coach and I should use my damn skills. So, out I went to the yard.

Folks, at 6:45 this morning, this ADHD coach was in her yard wearing her pajamas and some nice bed head loping invasive bushes and pulling roots. It felt great! I was getting stuff done. As the morning coffee kicked in and the exercise of root pulling and brush pile creating helped me get my head clear I started to compose this post. Read More!

Hello ADHD World!

The first of my 2017 resolutions is to get my ADHD Coaching on Facebook. Here are the strategies I used to get this resolution met:

1) Recognize perfectionism and find my way around it. I wanted to get professional pictures and launch with a perfect Facebook presence. Facebook is incredibly easy to update. I don’t need to be perfect. I posted with sub-par pictures and got it done!

2) Focus on the stimulation. I’m really excited to be able to more easily interact with my ADHD community. This is what I’m focusing on more than the minutia of getting all these little Facebook settings correct. Thinking about the positive is, in this case, more motivating than just berating myself over how many years I’ve avoided this task.
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One of the key phrases that was drilled into our heads at the ADD Coach Academy is

“What you pay attention to grows”.

I have had this phrase in my head for 15 years now and it has proven to be crazy powerful while being ridiculously simple at the same time.

The phrase encourages you to notice what you’re giving all of your time, energy and attention to and makes you question if that is where you want to focus your life. If you focus on worries and anxiety they will grow. If you focus on your strengths and the things you are grateful for those will grow.

I find for myself and many of my clients a shift in perspective is often all that is needed to see our way out of a situation where we feel stuck. Read More